Too Busy Is The Pattern Not The Problem.

It's just the state of life. It is what it is. One day when things slow down, then that's when I'll focus on me.

You've said this. I've said this. And I get it, because life is genuinely busy and full. I'm not dismissing that part at all.

But the longer you stay in busy, keep putting yourself at the bottom of your own list, and keep telling yourself it is what it is, the longer you stay exactly where you are.

One day when isn't a plan. It's a pattern. It shows up in every season wearing a different reason. Right now it might be family. Next it'll be the extended family, or the next big move, or the next challenge. The pattern doesn't need a reason. It just needs you to keep agreeing to it.

The Morning It Nearly Didn't Happen

I had a client who felt exactly this way.

She'd booked into one of the one-day workshops because some part of her knew she was ready to make change.

Then the morning of the event, everything at home started going pear shaped.

She rang me. Said, I knew this was going to happen. This is why I don't bother.

One Question Changed Her Day

It wouldn't have bothered me if she'd chosen to stay back to manage the spot fires. But I knew the pattern well, so I simply asked her one thing. What's the actual worst that could happen if you still chose you today?

That was enough to help her see what she needed. Just someone outside her own head, helping her see what she couldn't see from inside it. The spot fires and the things you've got to fix every day, they'll always be there waiting for you.

She said, that's it. I'm still coming.

What Six Hours Actually Gave Her

If you ask her it was the best decision she ever made.

It opened up a whole world of what was possible, the kind of thing you can't see when you're spinning, and knee deep in it.

She had no reference point for what six hours out of her own life could actually do. No reference point for what it's like to stop being on call for everyone else, and call yourself back in. To you.

To be guided by nature for a day, surrounded by other women carrying that same silent sense that something needs to change.

The horses will show you your own blind spots faster than you'd believe. But it's more than the horses. It's tapping back into what you already have. Intuition you stopped listening to, because you were too busy. You already have the tools and resources within you.

Ready isn't an outcome. It's a by-product. She wasn't ready that morning. She came anyway, and the ready arrived somewhere, once she'd actually started.

The Part That's On You

You don't need a challenge back home to be running the exact same pattern she was running that morning. Most days, nothing actually falls apart at all. Life just keeps asking for you, in a hundred small ways, and you keep saying yes to it instead of to yourself. That's a harder pattern to notice, because nothing's technically on fire.

There's a willingness this kind of day asks of you. It can't change anything if you're not willing to play your part.

And your part starts with saying yes. It's one day. You don't have to wait a lifetime for this. You don't have to keep surviving one day to the next.

Every time you choose you anyway, even mid pattern, even when it's inconvenient, you're making a deposit in your own bank of self-trust. That's not a nice idea. That's what she actually built that morning, before she'd even arrived.

Are you ready to actually work on your next chapter, and what that looks like for you? That part's up to you. I can't do that bit for you.

But I can offer you the space I've built to get unstuck. That’s what the one day women’s workshop offers.

And I really look forward to meeting the unstuck version of you, and what that changes for you.