Every Growth Minded Person I Know Has A Coach

The Conversation That Sparked This Reflection

I was talking with my sister the other week and we somehow landed on the topic of my own evolution. Where I am at, what is next, and how much has shifted for me while building out my business over the past couple of years. She asked if I felt like I was getting to the end of the road with my coach now that I have learned the structures and the frameworks and should be able to keep things going on my own.

It made me stop, because one of the biggest truths I have learned about myself is that I did not realise until recently how quickly I slip back into my default patterns when I am navigating new territory.

Why Growth Minded People Don’t Rely on Self Coaching

Every growth minded person I know has a coach. And working in personal growth and self leadership for women has only strengthened this belief. Self coaching is a paradox. You can’t challenge what you can’t see in yourself. Most of us can’t recognise our own patterns while we are sitting right in the middle of them.

Whenever I am entering new territory, I can feel my old patterns kick in. Even with all of the work I have done, I still notice the moments where the familiar shows up. And when I am inside it, I cannot always see it clearly. This is where having someone alongside me has mattered so much. Not to fix me. Not to rescue me. But to help me see the things I miss when I am too close to the situation.

The Self Awareness I Had to Learn the Hard Way

Left to my own devices, perfection was never going to be enough for me anyway. Building a business and navigating my versions of leadership means constantly stepping into unfamiliar territory. I know exactly how I can get in my own way. That is not weakness. That is self awareness.

Having support keeps me in a much more optimal state than muscling through everything alone. Hustle, grind and the energy it takes to push through by yourself is a fast track route to burnout.

Why Investing in Yourself is Not Indulgent

For a long time, I told myself I could not justify investing in myself because there were always other things that needed the money more. But the return on investing in my own growth and emotional sustainability has been unmatched.

I move through stress points faster now because I actually have the capacity to go through them. Not bypass them. Not rush through them just to get it over with.

That is not expansion. That is just getting better at coping.

Now I catch myself sooner. I recover quicker. And I lead myself better. This is what real personal growth and sustainable performance looks like behind the scenes.

You Know These Patterns Too

If you are honest, you probably recognise some of these patterns in yourself. The part of you that is capable and driven, but still gets tangled when the next stage asks more of you than your old patterns know how to handle. The part that wants to expand your next level without burning yourself out in the process. The part that knows doing it all alone has never really been the answer.

Support Is Not Indulgent. It Is Intelligent.

If you genuinely want to expand, get a coach. Not because you are lost. Not because you are broken. But because you are too close to your own patterns to challenge them on your own.

Support is not indulgent. It is intelligent.
And every growth minded person I know would say the same.

Walking My Talk

The timing of this reflection makes me smile. When you read this, I will be in Noosa for a week of my own deeper development work. I will share some behind the scenes on my socials and emails because I believe in showing and sharing the work, not just talking about it.

If You Feel That Pull Toward Your Next Level

If you know next year is going to ask a bit more of you, and you want to expand in a way that aligns with where you want to go next, reach out. I’d love to help you explore what your next steps could look like.